Personal Growth

Vulnerability

Not weakness

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Vulnerability, in personal growth, is the willingness to open up emotionally and be genuine, even if it risks being seen as weak.

It's a strength that fosters connections, self-awareness, and empathy.

Embracing vulnerability allows for personal growth by enabling honest self-examination, meaningful relationships, and the courage to face challenges.

It's a powerful tool for self-improvement and should not be confused with weakness.

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Author's Opinion

Extract from: Owning our Struggles by Minaa B. 2023

Myths about what it means to be strong;

  • Pretending to have it all together when you don't
  • Presenting yourself as perfect over being human
  • Suppressing your emotions and lacking vulnerability
  • Putting other people's needs before your own
  • Fixing and saving other people from theory problems
  • Pretending to be unaffected by adversity and pushing through without complaints
  • Having tough skin in dealing with problematic behavior instead of setting boundaries.

What its really like to be strong:

  • Admitting when you don't know something
  • Admitting that you need help and asking for it
  • Allowing yourself to feel all your emotions, not just the good ones
  • Allowing yourself to cry if you need to
  • Pushing through adversity while simultaneously acknowledging the hurt that comes with it
  • Being vulnerable and learning from others
Author's Opinion 3

Handouts: Home Improvement: Men in Relationship Jan 2024

A full apology

Often when there is a cycle of abusive behavior the person who does the harm feels guilty and sorry for their behavior and usually apologizes.

Often it is not received well by the person who has been harmed, possibly because the person has heard “im sorry” over and over and ' ‘I'm sorry” comes to mean very little to them.

The apology might be sincere, but it is not likely to be received well, unless there is a real plan for how the behavior will not reoccur.

There needs to be more than just saying sorry.

There needs to be a full apology.

A full apology has three steps:

Step 1: ‘Here is what I did that I regret” Specifics are helpful. Vagueness is not.

Step 2 : “Here is what I'm doing so this never happens again”

What can be done to create emotional and physical safety for your partner?

Accountability with a counselor or a trusted friend can be a helpful step.

Step 3: “Is there something you need from me right now?”

She may need you to leave for a while and this may be difficult.

She may have difficulty accepting the apology if she has heard lots of “I'm sorry's” in the past.

This requires patience and empathy on your part.

So many ‘ifs’

Too many ‘whens’

Too many ‘sorrys’

And never ‘agains’

Too many ‘lies’

Too many ‘one more tries’

How many were there

Before I knew

That ‘action’ speaks louder

Than ‘promises’ do?

Apology mistakes:

Not being genuine

Body language doesn't match verbal message

Waiting for the ’right’ moment

Expecting immediate and total forgiveness

Apologizing too much

Not giving a full apology

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Updated: November 2023

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