Self-Reflection

Control

Letting go!

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Giving up "Control" in relationships means not trying to manage every little thing.

You can't control the weather, so you don't get upset about it. However, you can adapt to the weather. So you can focus on what you can influence and let go of what cannot be changed.

Adjusting and adapting can help reduce stress and arguments and make your relationship more enjoyable and peaceful.

In the end, it's about choosing happiness over ‘getting worked up’ about things that won't really matter in the long run.

Your Toolbox 2

Handouts: Home Improvement: Men in Relationship Jan 2024

Contol

Reacting vs responding

Reacting:

Knee jerk response ; not thinking things through

Use reactive language

Blaming and accusing attitude

Feel and act like a victim

Focus on what is not in your control (other people, circumstances)

Generate negative energy

Focus on the problem only

Avoid being accountable

Reactive not proactive

Behave out of habit

Responding

Think things through

Focus on what is in your control (your thoughts. Feelings, behaviors)

Think and act responsively

Act and behave in a self - responsible way

Focus on solutions, options and choices

Pay attention and are curious and proactive

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The perfectionist trap

Being a contol freak means you have zero control in your life

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Updated: November 2023

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