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Change

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Accepting change in relationships is like a bird building a new nest each season. It is about adapting to evolving circumstances.

Embracing change and creating a new 'nest' or place of emotional and physical saftey can lead to growth even though it might seem hard.

It's about acknowledging the need for change and identifying what needs to change and when.

Then its about moving forward, one step at a time.

Change can be painfull.

The pain to change compared to the prologed pain of not changing.

That drives success.

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Your Toolbox

https://menshealthfoundation.ca/mindfit-toolkit/

Podcast & Youtube Links

Podcast: Micro Stress Doses and the impact of stress on our health

www.drchatterjee.com/41

https://menshealthfoundation.ca/dont-change-much-podcast/

BigJake's Thoughts

Change

Change for many people is difficult.

**The fear of the unknown. **

We love predictability, that is why companies like McDonalds and Starbucks are so successful.

Often we find ourselves on this new road that happened because change was forced upon us. A divorce or a loss of a job. A loss of a loved one or an sudden illness. Those are significant changes that might have turned our whole life around.

Then there are the smaller yet equally significant changes that we try to do. The changes needed to say lose weight or stop smoking.

BigJakeConnects focus on helping guide you to make the smaller changes and the bigger more challenging changes.

Discovering which changes you need to make depends on how important those changes are to you. If the pain to change is less than the pain not to change then change is possible.

However if the pain more than the pain it will take to change then change might me more challenging or it might just get postponed until you can not push it out any longer.

That is why it is better to have a bigger view and imagine the worst case scenario if you don't act on change now.

If you can appreciate that reality of how bad things might get, then that can often be a good reason to make significant changes today that can really serve you well.

Author's Opinion 1

Book: Happy Mind Happy Life - Dr Rangan Chatterjee 2022

Being able to surrender our selfish thought patterns is an essential ingredient for happiness. When we become overly me-focused, we tend to forget to feel grateful for parts of our life that are actually good.

We also fail to forgive people who we come into conflict with. Being thankful for what we have , and actively and intentionally practicing forgiveness, are common spiritual practices for the simple reason - they work.

They make our relationships stronger, which makes our social world safer, and this makes us feel more in control. They make us feel more content and at peace with the world, and more aligned with what we want to be.

Holding on to jealousy, anger and envy has been found to put our mind and body into a stressful state. It signals to our brain that we’re in an unsafe space. Which can trigger more stress and spiral down into depression.

Forgiveness reverses this process, sending us on an upward spiral towards happiness.

Gratitude is the cure for negativity.

Gratitude is a social emotion that reminds us how supported and safe we are and connects us to the people around us.

Author's Opinion 2

Book: Why has nobody told me this before? By Dr Julie Smith 2022 On Dark Places

4. How to turn bad days into better days. - Change Topic

Summary:

Focus on making good decisions, not perfect ones.

Good enough steers you towards real change. Perfectionism causes decision- making paralysis, whereas improving your mood demands that you make decisions and take action.

Keep changes small and sustainable

When someone is down we show them kindness because we know it is what they need.

So if you are committed to managing your mood and overall mental health, commit to practicing self-compassion.

Once you understand the problem, use it to help you work out where you want to go and focus on the horizon ahead of you.

5. How to get the basics right. Go to: Author Opinion - Foundation Topic

Author's Opinion 3

Home Improvement: Men in Relationship Jan 2024

Model of Change:

-Pre-contempaltive

-Contemplative

-Preparation

-Action

-Maintanance

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Updated: November 2023